We humans have been “brainwashed” from born.
“Win from the beginning”, “Breakfast is important”, “People get married when they grow up”, we heard these since we were children. Besides, “People need 7 to 8 hours a night”, “People died if they do not eat and drink anything”, “My body is living for me”, everybody think these are common sense.
When you change your point of view, you will also change your attitude, and that will change your daily life, then change your relationship, even change your whole life.
Life as binary opposition, argument is inevitable. One says “Win from the beginning”, other one would say “Lose from the beginning”. One says “Breakfast is important”, other one might say “Skipping breakfast is healthier”. We heard “People get married when they grow up”, but when we actually grown up, we find people have the right to be single, marriage is not necessary for everyone.
In fact, concepts are not good or bad, right or wrong itself. Different concepts could be correct in different situation. Difference becomes opposition, everyone insists their opinion, it cause argument and conflict.
To avoid conflict happen is what people need to do, but most people do not know their responsibilities. They only know about material comfort, lost in finding enjoyment.
If you want to change other people, you should change yourself first. When your mind changed, then everything changed. If you can abandon all your concept, that is even better.